This is the anti post to my previous entry on 5 Simple Steps to become my Worst Enemy. Now I’m going to tell you the top 5 traits that I adore most in all human beings.

1. Remembering my name. I absolutly 100% love it when somebody remembers my name. It makes me feel totally special and significant. Maybe one of the reasons I love this is because I am so tragic at name recall myself. I read in the classic self help book ‘How to win friends and influence people’ that remembering somebody’s name is one of the keys to success. This is why I love working were everyone wears name badges. I support everyone having to wear name badges, everywhere, all the time. I also want to get a shirt made that say in big letters “Hi, My name is Rhys!”

2. Vulnerability. I love a vulnerable person. Someone with a wonky eye. Some one who drops their food everywhere. Or just someone who admits they are too scared to dance at a party. I just adore these people, I feel protective of them.

3. Vivacity. I served a lady the other day. she ordered her meal like she was ordering a fluffy pink unicorn. As if she only orders one every five years. As if she is indulging in something forbidden. As if we where sharing a secret together. She was actually excited about it, she knew exactly what it was she wanted and she had this perky energy inside her when she handed me the money, and when I returned her change. I expected her to dust her hands and whisper “mission accomplished” to herself. I instantly fell in love with her. What she had that so many other people are missing is vivacity. Something I really admire. That means energy, life, not just drudging along but actually feeling the grass beneath your feet, making every encounter unique.

4. You liking me. No matter who you are, if you like me, then I will almost defiantly like you. Maybe this is an ego stroking thing, but I love people who will pay me a compliment. There is always that tiny worry in the back of my mind that maybe I like someone more than they like me. this is forbidden. So if they admit that they like me then I have permission to like them more than i would have previously allowed myself to. dose that make sense?

5. The X factor. I don’t know how to explain this, but there are some people you just click with. I’ve had certain friends for years but have never discussed anything remotely deep with them. Then there are other friends who I can discuss everything and anything with. The conversation never runs dry and we cover all the most deepest issues. Its just about being on the same wave length I think… Its about knowing where the other person is coming from and being able to relate.

The perfect example of all of these factors combined is Maria from The Sound of music. My ultimate soul mate and one true love. 1. She can remember all those tiny little Austrian names, 2. She is often terrified. 3. She over comes her fears with her vivacious singing! 4. She is vocal in her admiration of everything that breaths and 5. She is a nun. Is there anything sexier than a nun? Maybe a librarian, but that is all! Oh Maria! come to me!